I have really been looking forward to this date. If you had asked me a few years ago about online dating I would have laughed and said it was not for me. I might be right. This was my second first date using an online dating sight. The first guy (not so cute) was wonderful to talk to and the conversations we had were fantastic! The second guy and I have been talking on the phone and he seemed okay but the conversations have been a bit one sided and choppy. But he was cute so I agreed to a date. He lives far away so we met in the middle.
I was safe and would only meet him in a public place in the middle of the day. He picked McDonalds. While we were there he didn't ask if I wanted anything (I didn't but it would have been nice to be asked. It was a date after all.) while he drank his coffee. Then he started to get all touchy and was suggesting we gets bottle of wine and find a place to drink it.
Then he wanted me to let him get into my car so we could drive to another location. No, sorry, not happening! So I made sure we stayed in our separate cars and I filled him to another public area so we could walk a little. The weather was beautiful and I was looking forward to being outside and not shivering.
On the way to our walk, while in our separate cars, I called my brother and asked him to give me a call in a half hour so I could duck out of the date if I felt the need. I fully expected to need that call. I have never done that before. This was all new to me. I never dated much before I met my ex and that was many years ago.
We parked in a small lot overlooking an intersection between two creeks. You could clearly see where the two flows combined. It was beautiful. I was mesmerized. It would have been a great romantic place. Oddly here he was almost ignoring me. I was clearly interested in the beauty of nature and he was not interested in it at all. he wanted to go on our walk so I made sure we walked on the main street of the village we met in.
On the way to the parking lot I noticed a cute shop that promised books, toys and food, three of my favorite things! I was hoping that we would walk by it. We must have been an interesting pair to watch as we walked. He was 15 inches taller than me. Luck was with me, he turned toward the store I wanted to go to. I was even more lucky when we got there and it was open. Yes, on my big date, I decided to go shopping. I said I wanted to go into the store and before he could protest I was in.
This was my dream store. Educational toys, fun toys, cute toys, toys from my childhood and even those roll caps that we used to hit with a hammer to make them bang. I still remember the smell those caps made. I should have bought some. I was clearly thrilled to be there and he was there. A few times while we were in the store he tried to initiate conversation. I have to give him credit for that. He just couldn't keep it going.
I shopped, I bought some items to use in the classroom. I found Guatemalan Worry Dolls, I buy them
every time I find them. I even found those gunpowder filled paper pops that my kids love to play with. He bought a bottle of Coke and didn't offer me any.
We found a bench to sit on and again he was all touchy. I was very uncomfortable and at least got him to stop trying to kiss me. Then my phone rang and I am sad to say that I took my out and rushed home. Well, I drove home for over an hour and bought myself dinner because I was starving!
Now I have a third guy messaging me, again he looks good and seems okay on line. But in person we are not doing okay. They seemed thrilled with me, and both are asking me out again. I have said no to both. I have gotten away from one less than ideal guy and I am not planning on going through that again. So I am being picky and I am being assertive. When did I become this person? The woman I was before I met my ex was terrified to call him on the phone. Now I am messaging guys online looking for a date. Surprise!
I was safe and would only meet him in a public place in the middle of the day. He picked McDonalds. While we were there he didn't ask if I wanted anything (I didn't but it would have been nice to be asked. It was a date after all.) while he drank his coffee. Then he started to get all touchy and was suggesting we gets bottle of wine and find a place to drink it.
Then he wanted me to let him get into my car so we could drive to another location. No, sorry, not happening! So I made sure we stayed in our separate cars and I filled him to another public area so we could walk a little. The weather was beautiful and I was looking forward to being outside and not shivering.
On the way to our walk, while in our separate cars, I called my brother and asked him to give me a call in a half hour so I could duck out of the date if I felt the need. I fully expected to need that call. I have never done that before. This was all new to me. I never dated much before I met my ex and that was many years ago.
On the way to the parking lot I noticed a cute shop that promised books, toys and food, three of my favorite things! I was hoping that we would walk by it. We must have been an interesting pair to watch as we walked. He was 15 inches taller than me. Luck was with me, he turned toward the store I wanted to go to. I was even more lucky when we got there and it was open. Yes, on my big date, I decided to go shopping. I said I wanted to go into the store and before he could protest I was in.
This was my dream store. Educational toys, fun toys, cute toys, toys from my childhood and even those roll caps that we used to hit with a hammer to make them bang. I still remember the smell those caps made. I should have bought some. I was clearly thrilled to be there and he was there. A few times while we were in the store he tried to initiate conversation. I have to give him credit for that. He just couldn't keep it going.
I shopped, I bought some items to use in the classroom. I found Guatemalan Worry Dolls, I buy them
We found a bench to sit on and again he was all touchy. I was very uncomfortable and at least got him to stop trying to kiss me. Then my phone rang and I am sad to say that I took my out and rushed home. Well, I drove home for over an hour and bought myself dinner because I was starving!
Now I have a third guy messaging me, again he looks good and seems okay on line. But in person we are not doing okay. They seemed thrilled with me, and both are asking me out again. I have said no to both. I have gotten away from one less than ideal guy and I am not planning on going through that again. So I am being picky and I am being assertive. When did I become this person? The woman I was before I met my ex was terrified to call him on the phone. Now I am messaging guys online looking for a date. Surprise!
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