Full disclosure I don't make a lot of money in the summer. He has primary custody of the kids because he won't give me any money. (That's right almost 18 years of marriage and he gives me NOTHING!) I don't make a lot and he makes more so he has the kids. I have them 50% of the time, but he pays for the food and medical for them.
Okay I have the kitten, I don't make money in the summer, and yes I have applied for many many jobs. The houses I am available they don't want me. The houses they want me for I am not available. The kids want to spend time with the kitten since their father won't allow the kitten at their house so they come to mine.
He is supposed to provide the food for the kids. I get them at 2:30 so I assumed that was dinner and a snack. Turns out they don't wake up until after noon and he doesn't always feed them before they come see me. They only bring one meal with them. And they are hungry. When I mention this to my ex he gets mad at me because I don't make enough to feed them.
That was part of the divorce agreement. He had custody of the kids and he was responsible for the food, even if they were visiting me. I find out he is making them dinner at 1 am in the morning when he gets them home after he picks them up at my place.
Then he tells the kids that he wants the leftovers brought back to his house. I assume he wants to be sure that I don't eat anything. I can't believe I married him. The thing is if I didn't know he was the same man I married I wouldn't believe it. They say men don't change. That is bull! They don't change into what you want them to be but they can and will change and it isn't always for the better.
Tonight though he was plane hurtful. There was an issue where he may have hit my landlady's new car. He was livid that he didn't do it. But still we checked. Then because he was mad he told me how my family thinks I am a bitch and they always tell him that this is just how I am. I am not perfect. I don't get along with everyone in my family. But when he mentioned one family member in particular it hurt. And I know he did it on purpose.
It was late so I didn't call the person. I knew my ex said wasn't accurate. I needed to talk to the person though. I was hurt and I needed to talk. Luckily we are cut from the same cloth and both night owls. We texted, because I was in tears and talking wasn't a possibility. He assured me it was my ex being hurtful. I knew it, but I let him get to me.
And yes I texted my ex back.