The only relationship I was in that involved abuse, a bad ending and any negativity was my marriage. Before I met him I hadn't really dated many guys. I think he was my second serious relationship. So I didn't have a lot to compare him too. And honestly for the first few years he worshipped the ground I walked on.
Now that I have dated other guys I know it wasn't me. We all hear it when people talk to you about the abuser. They say it wasn't you. And you listen and understand it. But when you finally know it and believe it, it is such an A-Ha moment.
I am with someone now who treats me like a queen. He is attentive and there for me. Such a difference from my ex-husband, even during our good years. I am happy and I hope this lasts.